Can You Spot Why This Viral Photo Has So Many People Upset (Photo)

Can You Spot Why This Viral Photo Has So Many People Upset (Photo)

A man’s Facebook post about his wife’s habit of “co-sleeping” with their young children has gone viral and ignited a contentious discussion on social media.

On April 2, the Love What Matters Facebook page uploaded an image taken by David Brinkley. The photo shows his wife lying in bed with their two children, one of whom is a baby.

Image Of Mother Sleeping With Children Triggers Debate (Photo)

Image Of Mother Sleeping With Children Triggers Debate (Photo)

“Recently [my wife] was talking to a friend and they were talking about this thing called ‘co-sleeping’ and I heard the other person ask ‘Doesn’t your husband hate that? My husband would never let me do that,'” Brinkley wrote.


“So I just decided to come out as a man and set a few things straight,” he continued. “I do NOT hate any part of what makes my wife the mother that she is. I would NEVER degrade or disregard anything that she feels like doing for my children. Do I have to squeeze into a small corner of the bed sometimes? Yeah? But my God how beautiful does she look holding my children?”

The post has since been liked over 129,000 times and shared more than 27,500 times. It has also received over 5,000 comments, with users arguing about whether it’s wise — or even safe — for parents to share a bed with their kids.

“This is dangerous for the baby,” one user wrote, according to CBS News. “Babies should sleep alone, on their back, in a crib. Remember the A< B< Cs of safe sleep.”

“Co-sleeping is not safe,” a fellow user agreed. “Children get rolled on all of the time, and this type of behavior creates children who can’t sleep on their own without touch!”

But others pushed back in favor of the practice.

“Co-sleeping happened for thousands of years until we became a ‘civilized’ society and put the kids at the other end of the house!” one person commented.

A number of experts have since weighed in on the subject.

“First of all, you can’t argue with [Brinkley’s] sentiment and his support of his wife. That was so sweet,” Susan Castellano, maternal and child health director at the Minnesota Department of Health, told CBS News. “But I think the danger is that we do know co-sleeping can end in infant death. It does. It happens all the time.”

According to CBS News, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) estimates that around 3,500 babies die every year in sleep-related incidents. AAP recommends that babies sleep on their backs on a firm mattress without any pillows or blankets nearby, as such items can increase the risk of suffocation. AAP advises against parents sleeping in the same bed as their babies.

But other experts are not convinced. Dr. James McKenna, director of the Mother-Baby Behavioral Sleep Laboratory at the University of Notre Dame, said co-sleeping is unfairly criticized.

“You have to go out of your way to make it dangerous,” he said. “No matter how many warnings or misrepresentations of inherent dangers moms and babies find themselves. Babies have always slept and always will sleep next to their mothers.”

He added that he is an advocate of “breastsleeping,” whereby mothers nurse their babies while lying next to them in bed.

After Brinkley’s post went viral, his wife, Alora, responded to the criticism she received with a Facebook post of her own.

“My husband supervised this entire experience and made it possible for me to comfortably lay with them both like this as he very lovingly and carefully watched over us,” she wrote. “We would never put our children in a dangerous situation and our night time sleeping looks completely different than this.”

“We live in a very political time and an overly aggressive society,” she added. “To say hurtful things just because you don’t like a picture or don’t like a post that you didn’t have to read in the first place is just an unnecessary waste of time.”

Sources: Love What Matters/Facebook, CBS News, Alora Brinkley/Facebook / Photo Credit: froot/Pixabay, Love What Matters/Facebook

13 thoughts on “Can You Spot Why This Viral Photo Has So Many People Upset (Photo)

    • You church people need to get over yourselfs. You all make a mountain a out of a molehill or don’t have children of your own.

  1. A friend of mine did the same and during the night she rolled on top of her daughter and suffocated her to death.

    • You church people need to get over yourselfs. You all make a mountain a out of a molehill or don’t have children of your own.

  2. I think it is a beautiful thing and that folks should mind their own business. People sitting in their homes get killed everyday from drive by shootings, their are drug dealers and prostitues destroying our cities, folks abusing kids and the elerdly. Peoples lives being turned upside down because of our messed up so called justice system.How about concerning yourselves with how we can protect lives from that or the fact dead beat dads causesing single mothers not to be able to feed their kids properly because they wont pay their child support. I mean if everyone stood up against all the right problems instead of causing drama in folks lives, things could be better in our communities

    • The only thing I can say perhaps they could get a bigger bed and put side rails on it. I agree so many broken homes, people living in cars, on the streets, dirty motel rooms , the food and resources wasted in America.

  3. Has no one noticed the love and bond in the picture even the baby is holding someone, I think it’s a safe bet to say he feels safe

  4. If you love your children.the way I love mine. You want them as close to you all the time. I put mine in bed with me so I could tell if they stopped breathing.i had their little nose right next to my cheek so I could feel their breath. When God gives you something as precious as a child. You don’t take any chances,with something happening to it. You love it and nurture it.

  5. I slept with all my kids. They range from 22-2yrs old. So ya I sleep with my 2yr old. The older three are grown & do just fine sleeping in their own beds.

  6. Never judge a mother an her motives, you don’t know anything about the child to support your’s a single situation, one of them may have some sort of temporary different sleeping pattern. Or just laying down among them so they can sleep better then she may move the child

  7. There is nothing wrong with it . If it gets child to take a nap well good infants an toddlers need naps .So stop bitching . People that bitch about things like this Should Not Have Children.

  8. I co sleep with my grandson who is two now. He is a drug baby,was emotionally abused while in his mother’s care not to mention witness his mothe stab her boyfriend. I would co sleep with all my grandkids if they went threw what he has. For a good loving mom to co sleep it’s beautiful and shame on all of you who say it’s not. Don’t judge anyone less you be judge.

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